Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Positive thinking Can Alter Behaviour.

We are living in a very stressful, fast, unspiritual and materialistic world. Each day we are bombarded with thousands of stress spikes ,both personal and at impersonal level. Work, home, relationships,school, college and simply friends may become sources of stress, anxiety and depression. We usually find our own mechanisms to deal with them albiet in an inefficient and usually derimental ways ,both for our health and relationships. modern living maybe very enjoyable too but only when we really learn time management, enjoy a hobby and find work rewarding and fulfilling.

Often we tend to find ways to cope with situations only in a reactionary way. A boss may criticise and we instead of seeing and rectifying the deficiency or fault react. This further worsens our stress level and hampers positive thinking.
Many of our relationships also suffer due to negative thinking and often we may get into a vicious cycle and damage a perfectly good relationship.
Nowadays there are many known,tried and tested therapies such as yoga,meditation, prayer, music,guided imagery, excercise ,cognitive behaviour therapy which help convert negative thinking into positive ones. Cognitive Behaviour Therapy can be taken with a counsellor or it can be practicised at home once you learn the techniques. Web Md is a good source of learning these techniques. Positive thinking is key to behaviour change be it for leaving smoking,drug habit, anger management, stress management or dealing with depression and other diseases.Weight loss program also gains immensly from learning positive thinking.
I once improved greatly in my repeated negative thoughts about people taunting( Tana in Urdu) by reading Anthony Robbins and practicing the techniques in the book.This happened some 15 years back and my learned behaviour has improved so much that now not a single thought comes in mind that I convert it into positive thinking. Previously I used to be ruled by that negative thought and it was very stressful!
CBT can be done with a counsellor or can be done at home.The change can make you realise the negative thoughts . You can then learn to review these thoughts and then learn to remove them and replace with positive thoughts.Mind relaxation techniques also enhance positive thoughts and behaviour modification.The one thing I have learned most in my positive behaviour modification role , be it with teenagers, children or adults, is that when you tell the other person you care and trust them does the positive change starts to occur. So if you are doing this for yourself, start by saying to yourself the following things;

  • I trust myself to change my negative thinking or thoughts to positive thinking or thoughts.

  • I trust myself to acknowledge my negative thoughts after recognising them.

  • I trust and promise myself to change my negative behaviour to positive behaviour by dismissing negative thoughts immediately and replacing them with positive thoughts immediately.

  • I trust and promise myself to improve my behaviour by helping myself by understanding the ngative behaviours such as smoking, violence, anger,cursing or other abuse,and immediately stopping them with the help of a psychiatrist, a doctor, a counsellor some other person or even myself.

  • if myself then I will read extensively and repeat the behaviuor modification excercises.

  • I trust myself to learn time management and spend my liesure time in positive activities such as sport, teaching, helping


NaVeed said...

thank you so much for this post i really need help these days and this post is of great help thanks alot

May Allah Bless you

MEER said...

Shukr Al Hamd Li Allah Only. I really need the younger people to realize their problems and help themselves. God Bless you Too. Thanks for reading my posts regularly.

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